Thursday, October 4, 2012

How good? Like, Judaism-good, or just, like, Unitarian?

     Happy Halloween everyone!  Yes, it has begun already.  It starts on Oct. 1 and runs 31 days--like Christmas or Hanukkah, only better because it's not 9 or 12 days of crappy music and it ends with fistfuls of CANDY.  Plus, I get to craft myself into oblivion and pretend to be someone else for a full 24 hours.  And it's usually somebody even MORE awesome than I already am.

     But lately, the children of the Monterey Peninsula are killing my buzz.  Seriously you guys, if I overhear one more kid word vomit about the sins of humanity worshiping Satan on Halloween, I'm going to roll my eyes so hard that they will get stuck inside my brain.  I'll have to watch my own brain as it seizes.

     It's not so much the belief that confounds me, so much as the look on my son's face when he's not sure he's just pissed off God by hanging up a paper ghost.  Look, I understand where these families are coming from.  I'm Unitarian, that means I've got a basic understanding of the major world religions and several of the less publicized.
    That also means I do have my own beliefs, rooted in many cultures and that are very personal to me.  It means I believe in lots of things, but mostly it means that I believe in the inherent worth and dignity of every person.  I promote the justice, equity, and compassion in human relations.  I give and ask for the acceptance of one another and encourage spiritual growth in our congregations.  I affirm in a free and responsible search for truth and meaning.  There is a right of conscience and the use of the democratic process within our congregations and in society at largeMy goal is world community with peace, liberty and justice for all.  And I believe in respect for the interdependent web of all existence, of which we are a part. 
     As a Unitarian Universalist, I do my best to uphold these principles and respect other world, religious, and political views.  But I also hope that the same regard is fostered around me.  I celebrate Halloween.  I let my kids enjoy it.  And we don't knock on the neighbor's door and demand candy when we know they don't.  I don't correct children (or adults) when they spout off about my sins for carving a pumpkin or cobwebbing my front porch.  And I certainly don't solicit anyone into changing a moral stance on it.  Its faith; it's not right or wrong.

     So is it so insane to ask that the same respect be given to my children?  When I was growing up, my family had the usual, normal traditions that other households did; e.g. Easter egg hunts, Valentine's cards, fireworks on the 4th of July.  But none of them were as energizing or enveloping as Halloween.  I want that excitement to carry on!  My mom deemed herself the Queen of Halloween; she's passed her crown (and as someone who has dressed up, usually making my costumes from scratch, for all 28 years of my life--I believe it's a well-deserved title).  One day I hope to coronate my own prince and princess. I have no idea why my mom loved this holiday so much, but it made her happy.  It made us happy. 

     Halloween is special to me.  Don't ruin it!  Or I'll end up coining another punny moniker for the residents here, just like I did for the Slidoucebags of of Slidouche, Louisiana.  Something along the lines of the assholiest of the assholiest, something equally clever and unladylike. 

Today's subject line quote is from 30 Rock, "The Fighting Irish" (2007).

Friday, September 14, 2012

I'll level with you, I have a fraternity reunion coming up and if I'm not employed, Slimecracker and Man-Boobs are gonna tease the crap outta me!

My first high school reunion is in 8 days and I'm coasting on the surrealism of knowing this.  What's even stranger than waking up and realizing that 10 years has flown by and I've done practically nothing but get fat?  That I'm actually going.

Hopping on a plane Tuesday morning to exchange the farmers markets and fresh air of sunny California for the bible belt, chicken farms, and a party being held at a Cherokee casino.  And I've obsessed over this for the past year!  I didn't want the first thing people to think when they saw me was Oh my God!  Someone ate Cassidy and is wearing her skin like an Edgar-suit from Men In Black!

That got me started on P90X and Weight Watchers again.  It lasted about 6 weeks because both of those are like a part-time job!  Who has time to work out 1-2 hours EVERY DAY for a month and a half?  Oh sure, let me calculate points for the tenth of a marshmallow I just licked off the counter as well!  I'm doing all this between raising 2 kids that need attention 26 hours a day, meal planning, cleaning, and trying to socialize with other moms who are too busy to hang know so have those things that people need...friends??

Also, I started a internet-crafting boutique so that I wouldn't just be a stay-at-home mom who quit working out so she could both eat AND sleep every day.  Turns out, I pay Etsy to put up fancy words and pictures of crappy purses that nobody wants to buy.  Boy!  That'll show the class of 2002 how much I'm not a loser.

But I'm sure everybody feels insecure about what they've done with their lives thus far, right?  Except the popular kids that look just has hot as they did a decade ago.  But they probably made some kind of deal with Satan back in middle school.   And lets face it...that was hella smart.  But back to me.  I shouldn't have anything to be ashamed of or worried about.  Here's why:

I married the perfect person in the universe, or even multiple universes, who could put up with me and could make me as happy as I am.  I did so when I wanted to, even though it was hard and it made us broke for about 5 years.  Despite that we moved across the country after my sophomore year, I still finished college. We got out of debt.  We bought a house. Then I CHOSE to be a mom and one that put her kids above anything else.  I wanted to be with my kids more than I wanted a career.  And now we've lived on every coast of the US, vacationed in Europe and Mexico (or will by this Christmas...Holla!), and STAYED married for 8 1/2 years and been in love for 1 0 even though I gained 120 lbs since high school.  My husband supported me financially and emotionally as I, literally, worked my gigantic ass off to lose 100 of it.  My hips are wider because I had a baby the size of a Buick, but he's the smartest and coolest preschooler in the nation.  I am happy to sacrifice my body to give that gift to the world.

I am not who I was in high school; I'm better.  But I do have bat wings.

Today's subject line quote is from My Name is Earl (2007) "The Gangs of Camden County."

Thursday, July 5, 2012

You look like the Fourth of July! Makes me want a hot dog real bad!

     Hey, remember my last post about how I was having surgery in early July and I was all miffed about having to wait until then?  Just kidding. The universe got all askew and caught up with me.  Instead, I got to start a conversation at my dentists office with this:

"I need to reschedule my surgery to next month.  My husband is going to the North Pole."

     As it turns out, he's not actually going to the North Pole.  He is, however, farting around on a Canadian Coast Guard vessel in the Arctic Ocean, off the coast of Alaska for 3 weeks.  He left July 2nd and I celebrated Independence Day by not having any.  It's become a tradition since Dom's been gone about 3 of the last 5. 
     I've become increasingly crotchety and hermit-like over the holiday.  It's usually so hot out that I refuse to go outside for fear of catching fire and therefore condemn anyone else lighting fireworks in my vicinity out of jealousy.  Especially when they last for the surrounding 72 hours.  (It was always like that in Slidouche.  If there was a reason to shoot fireworks, they lasted for days.  New Years, January 2nd, 3rd, and 4th, 4th of July, Saints football games, I'm crazy and want to shoot fireworks at my girlfriend during a fight outside our trailer Day....Okay that never happened, but if it had occurred to them, I'm positive it would have.)

 He'll also be gone for my birthday, so I demand that he bring me back at least a baby seal...if not an adult penguin.  And my ultimate preference would be an infant polar bear holding a bottle of coke.

     But back to my surgery!  This isn't even my last rescheduling.  Now I have to call them back AGAIN and tell them that MetLife is full of douchebaggery and that I'd like to move my procedure back until their office is covered under the "preferred" dentist program.  Otherwise, I'll have to sell a kidney to fund this endeavor and then wait for that to heal before having my teeth ripped out.

     My life is awesome.  And I mean that in the sense that I am truly awe-struck every time stuff like this comes up.  Maybe even out of the sheer ridiculousness of its frequency.  We also have to have Michael's tonsils out because they're the size of Buicks and he sounds like a cross between Darth Vader with a head cold and an asthmatic English Bulldog when he sleeps.  So that's going to be fun.  Right?

     At least we get to take a HUGE vacation this December.  It includes Disneyland, Sea World, the San Diego Zoo, possibly Lego Land, and getting to see our amazing friends Meredith and Eddie again (whom we haven't seen since about 2008)!  Oh, and a 7 day cruise to Mexico, sans children.  What??!  None of us are terminally ill and it all occurs after the proposed Mayan-Zombie Apocalypse, so not really sure why we felt it was necessary to fit a decade's worth of fun into about 3 weeks.  But definitely looking forward to it!

Today's subject line quote is from Legally Blonde 2:  Red, White, and Blonde. (2003)

Thursday, May 31, 2012

You think you know pain? He will make you long for something as sweet as pain.

     I believe my body is deteriorating at a rapid and exponential rate.  Since we moved to California (in early March), I have:  fallen out of my front door and sprained my ankle (CA, week 2 by the way), experienced "headache season"--to which my doctor described as allergies that trigger migraines so I have to remember to take a decongestant before it creeps up on me (or sit in the fetal position and moan for the several hours it takes to dissipate, gotten my first ingrown toenail that Dom had to perform home-surgery with a pair of tweezers and some cotton twice daily for a week, grabbed my curling iron by the barrel and received a 2039849384 degree burn on my middle and index finger (the same week as the toenail debacle), we started working out to P90X and my muscles want to physically leave my body due to abuse--but that's another whole blog in itself, and finally the impacted wisdom teeth I've been avoiding having removed since 2005 finally started trying to break through my gums with what I can only assume is razor-coated enamel.

     I had the right half of my wisdom teeth removed a little over 7 years ago.  I made the mistake of using a general dentist and I'm fairly certain he wanted to embody Steve Martin's character in Little Shop of Horrors.  It was the most painful experience of my entire life, up to that point.  Crazy Pitocin labor wins that trophy, but having your teeth and jawbone removed under local anesthetic by a Dr. Sadist, D.D.S was a close second.

     So after having 3 or so more dentists remind me that the left half had to go soon, "And you don't want to wait until your 25 or older, that's not going to be good for you. Blah Blah Blah.  Pain.  Damage.  Etc."  I'm turning 28 this summer and still have the boogers!  It wasn't all fear that kept me from the extraction.  There were several other factors, like laziness.
     Also, there were no oral surgeons (within 100 miles) covered under my insurance while living in South Carolina.  And when we moved to Slidouche, my husband was gone 40% of the year and I didn't want to have to play single parent directly after having someone cut open my gums and rip out my giant, sideways teeth.  Then when he was home for an extended time, Dom needed surgery twice.  And then I decided to have somebody cut me open and extract a baby instead.

     Long story--still pretty long but I'll cut to the chase,  I had a consultation this week.  My oral surgeon is very experienced.  And by that, I mean older than Jesus.  But at this point, I'm not going to go hunting for a new guy and possibly pay out of pocket for a fresher face just because I'm age discriminant.  Though, he did tell me that the root of my lower tooth is scraping the central nerve and there's a possibility that the left side of my face could be permanently numb.  Now I'm just hoping that his geriatric, Parkinson's hands are steady enough to not break my face.

     His office is also booked up through the first week of July, so I get to obsess about this until Friday the 6th.  Yaaaaaay.  I'm going to go eat breakfast while I can still taste it with the left side of my tongue...

Today's Subject Line Quote is from The Avengers (2012).

Monday, April 16, 2012

Error 404: Address Not Found

     We've moved!  Literally, across the country.  My husband loaded up our Hyundai Sante Fe, National Lampoon's style--with both kids, our dog, a metric asston of toys, and a hamster and we DROVE 2,000 some odd miles from Louisiana to California.  There were moments when the Beverly Hillbilly's theme song popped into my head, I'm not going to lie.

     Nobody was strapped to the roof in a rocking chair though...even though I wanted to ride outside of the vehicle on many occasions.  There's only so many farts a person can endure in one road trip before becoming severely, mentally impaired.  I blame my family's collective colons for any ramblings in the present or future.

     So far, California has been lovely.  Though they did confiscate my potted plant at the border!  Apparently my half-dead, frostbitten houseplant was too threatening.  My money's on that they saw it and just felt sorry for the poor thing.  Sure, you "saw" a "bug" that was potentially "harmful" to your "agriculture." I bet!
     Plant nabbing aside, there were only a few hitches that made it a mostly smooth transition.  We did manage to lose Michael's security blanket on our first overnight stop.  Luckily he didn't notice until we hit Roswell, so he totally bought into the scam that the aliens took it to repair it.  But it's apparently a blanket crocheted with yarn made of pure gold and souls of the innocent because it's really expensive to supply.
     I felt extremely douchey about this because I might as well have left a family member back at that rat trap of a hotel.  (Add it to the list...we left our geriatric beagle we've had for the last decade at an animal shelter before we left the state, too)  Michael's blanket has been the staple of bedtime since he was an infant; he even named it "Cal" when he started talking.  Hearing him ask about it the first few nights was pretty heartbreaking.   Hearing him tell strangers that aliens took his blanket right after explaining that his dog "was bad" and had to go to a shelter...was some embarrassing insight to my character.  I don't think I'm human any more.

     We have managed to get everything unpacked (even the garage!) and it looks like we actually live here now.  Though there are a few details here and there that need some attention.  But overall, it feels like home.  Except we have no friends and I only have conversations with my husband, children, and the occasional, oh-so-lucky cashier.  It's totally fine.  Everyone here is super nice and don't seem to mind that the crazy lady buying fat-free refried beans by the case is still talking about the weather.

     So I'll leave you with that...because a kajillion other things have happened in the last month and a half that I should fill everyone in on (i.e. my mother came back from the dead and is now healthier than she's been in the last know...the usual).  But that stuff will take another 45 days or so for me to type 3 crappy sentences, so yeah, don't get all excited just yet.


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